Our perception of reality is mostly illusory. To put it another way, what we experience through our senses is real, but there’s far more to it than we are aware of and is only an expression of the ultimate reality.
But we don’t need to make perfect sense of this paradox. We don’t need to fully understand it, what’s most important is that we accept it. To truly understand, we have to let go of understanding. If your queries about the nature of reality cause you a lot of stress, let them go for a while, anything you need to know will come to you when the time is right.
Science tells us a lot about how things are, but does little if anything to tell us why things are. And the study of metaphysics, as interesting as it is, is unnecessary and peripheral to the art of living in the now and finding peace among the challenges of day-to-day life.
In his book Ruthless Trust, Brennan Manning cited a story about a man who asked Mother Teresa to pray for him to have greater clarity, but she said she wouldn’t because “clarity is the last thing you are clinging to and must let go of.” When he said that she seemed to have the clarity he wanted, she laughed and said “I have never had clarity, what I have always had is trust. So I will pray that you trust God.”