Do what you can to let go of your ego and be a listener (to others, without snapping to judgment). The ego is the voice you have inner dialogue with. Don’t engage it. Don’t talk back to it. And don’t let it become your identity.
When you stop listening to this voice you’ll become better acquainted with a different voice within. It’s not really a voice, it’s an awareness — a deep knowing — a deep peace. That’s the real you. The you beyond the ego. The you that doesn’t get defensive or need to have an answer for everything. The you that is the observer.
Take a deep breath and let go of your need to be in control of everything and to have an opinion on everything. Be present in the moment and see yourself as part of everything, rather than judge of everything. And let go of what you think others think about you.
Your inner dialogue is a distraction. It prevents you from being more at peace and more constructive with your time. I like the term constructive more than the term productive. Sometimes what we think is productive is actually a waste of time, even destructive. Conversely, constructive means “serving a useful purpose; tending to build up.”