Many people won’t like you if you’re individualistic. Even some family members will scoff at it because they’re used to seeing you as an extension of themselves. Aversion to collective identity is frowned upon.

All tribes, family or otherwise, have their own cultures and unwritten rules. The overarching expectation is that you do things the group deems normal. You’re accepted to the degree that you stay within that boundary. The further you stray from the norms of the group, the more you’re seen as abandoning it.

It’s hard for people to understand you if you’re doing things they can’t relate to, but there’s always a tribe for you somewhere. We form bonds with people who are like us. Nobody is exactly like you, but in an interconnected world of eight billion people, there are many who are similar.