A leader doesn’t say “what way is everyone else going? I’ll go that way.” A leader says “come on, lets go this way.”
A leader doesn’t put his/her finger in the air to see which way the wind is blowing. A leader finds the right way to go and goes that way regardless of what others are doing. And if it’s the right way, eventually others will follow.
Another thing about leaders: they take responsibility. They have a social conscience. And they recognize that they are accountable to others, not just to themselves. You know you’ve grown up when this is who you are.