Often, our first instinct in a conversation is to prove we’re right. Which comes from our desire to be understood and valued. But that’s what starts arguments and games of one-upmanship.

When you feel that you’re trying to be right, tell yourself “I don’t need to be right.”

The need to be right, puts both you and the other party into a defensive posture. But when the other person see that you’re not trying to be right, they’re more likely to listen and consider your point of view.