Almost everything is out of your control. You have a say, but life is largely happening to you. It’s certainly not happening because of you. That’s how we live though. As though we’re owed something. As though reality should be obeying us.
Calm your wants. Shorten your list of desires. Dampen your expectations. Take life more as it comes, rather than trying to make everything the way you think it should be. Do what you can and let go of the rest. Letting go actually helps you see what you can do.