It’s disappointing when you find out that the private life of a public figure you admire, such as an athlete, musician, etc., is a train wreck. But maybe we give ourselves too much credit. Maybe my personal life is more of a train wreck than I like to think it is.
We’re all capable of bad behavior that we think only other people are capable of. That’s why we judge. That’s why our sense of justice is skewed. We think we’re more righteous than others.
It’s easier to judge someone else than it is to judge ourselves, especially people who are in the public eye. We do the same thing to public servants—police, politicians, etc. In their case it makes sense to hold them to a higher standard, but sometimes we’re too heavy-handed.