We lie to ourselves a lot. It makes us feel better. It holds us back though. Because lying to ourselves makes us blind to both opportunity and risk.
That’s why people are so devastated when forced to face reality. It’s better to face it voluntarily. It’s less traumatic and it makes you wiser.
Be a seeker of truth, and accept it, whatever it turns out to be. That doesn’t mean that circumstances can’t be adjusted—that we can’t shape our lives. We can, but within limits.