Is success defined by you or is it defined by other people? If it’s defined by other people, what wisdom do they have that you don’t?
We tend to think of success in terms of what our tribe thinks it should be. But the tribe isn’t always right.
It’s hard for us to believe that the majority could be wrong. And it’s hard for us to live in a way that might invite ridicule or persecution from our tribe. Especially when those who we most want to accept us might reject us or think less of us.
Success isn’t entirely subjective or arbitrary. There are some obvious ways in which we can fail. But it has nothing to do with who made the most money or who was most popular.
Once you remove what the tribe thinks, it changes everything. Success, for you, will no longer be defined by what other people are going to think of you.